DEAR GOD, PLEASE LET THEM MISS!!!
We’ve all been there. Whether in the final moments of the big game. At a gathering where someone else dared to move in on your “person of interest.” Gearing up for a big debate, presentation, demo-day, sales or job pitch or competition. Personal or professional.
But here’s the deal…
Hoping others fail is not a strategy, it’s a travesty. Click to tweet
Zero sum game situations still rule so much of life. And when they do, we’ve generally got a two step strategy.
Do our best + hope the competition screws up.
Two thoughts on this…
One, what if we added a step 0.5? What if we asked,
“Does this really have to be a zero-sum game?”
Is there some way to change the bigger construct to allow everyone to win? It’s possible more often than you’d imagine. But people don’t go there, because we’ve never been trained to think beyond kill or be killed.
Two, even if there’s no conceivable way to add the above step and change the fundamental nature of the challenge (think Olympics), I’d rather know I got the gig not because I was the one who didn’t screw up or screwed up least, but because I kicked some serious ass. There’s not a lot of glory or intrinsic reward in knowing you were better than someone else’s bad day.
Better to win by excellence than attrition. Click to tweet
Okay, so let’s add a number three here, too. Better to lose out of humanity and compassion than win with impunity. Runner, Meghan Vogel is powerful example. As Doug Binder wrote for ESPN:
Vogel, a junior runner for West Liberty-Salem High School (West Liberty, Ohio), won the 1,600-meter title Saturday at the Division III girls state meet at Jesse Owens Stadium in Columbus. But it’s what she did in her next race that was most remarkable.
With about 20 meters to go in the 3,200, Arden McMath, a sophomore from Arlington High School, collapsed in front of Vogel. Rather than run by her, Vogel helped McMath to her feet and carried her across the finish line, making sure to keep McMath ahead of her.
Here’s the video:
What Vogel did is the real power move. She exchanged a place in a race for a moment that not only defined her character, but moved a nation.
What do YOU think?
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