Comments on: The Problem IS you http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/ Innovation, Creativity, Entrepreneurship, Personal Development Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:15:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7082 Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome Wed, 25 Mar 2009 12:44:27 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7082 I've never thought of it this way, but you just make me realize that just as people look externally for validation we also look externally for blame. Thank you! I’ve never thought of it this way, but you just make me realize that just as people look externally for validation we also look externally for blame.

Thank you!

]]> By: Dimitar Nikolov http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7048 Dimitar Nikolov Sun, 22 Mar 2009 09:10:49 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7048 Thanks for the great article, Jonathan! <b>To change your life, you must firstly change yourself.</b> So many successful people have shared this tip of advice, yet so few of us actually follow it. Blaming others for our problems will not get them solved. I realized that an year ago when I started turning my life around for the better. The problem IS you. Also, the <b>solution IS you</b>. Thanks once again for the thoughtful post. Thanks for the great article, Jonathan!

To change your life, you must firstly change yourself. So many successful people have shared this tip of advice, yet so few of us actually follow it. Blaming others for our problems will not get them solved. I realized that an year ago when I started turning my life around for the better.

The problem IS you. Also, the solution IS you.

Thanks once again for the thoughtful post.

]]> By: LisaNewton http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7044 LisaNewton Fri, 20 Mar 2009 13:59:54 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7044 This is so true. Sometimes after I come home from taking pictures, I ask myself, if only I'd moved this way, or if only I'd taken my tripod, or maybe, if only I used a different camera setting. Then I take a longer look at the photos I did get, realizing even without all the stuff I just listed, I still got the shot I was looking for. It's a learning process, and each time I ask, if only, I realize, I don't really needed it. This is so true. Sometimes after I come home from taking pictures, I ask myself, if only I’d moved this way, or if only I’d taken my tripod, or maybe, if only I used a different camera setting.

Then I take a longer look at the photos I did get, realizing even without all the stuff I just listed, I still got the shot I was looking for.

It’s a learning process, and each time I ask, if only, I realize, I don’t really needed it.

]]> By: Freakin’ (Great Links) Friday: Installment 19 | When I Grow Up - The Blog http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7043 Freakin’ (Great Links) Friday: Installment 19 | When I Grow Up - The Blog Fri, 20 Mar 2009 13:51:15 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7043 [...] @ the Wheel confirms that The Problem IS You. But in a nice [...] [...] @ the Wheel confirms that The Problem IS You. But in a nice [...]

]]> By: PennySue http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7036 PennySue Wed, 18 Mar 2009 21:27:49 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7036 Thank you for sharing your story, things similar have happened in my life only different circumstances, really leaves us felling like sticking our head in the sand (love the picture)wishing you could crawl away or disappear in thin air. Like Michelle said we get in a hurry, rushing around to make all the preparations,its difficult to think clearly at this point. Thank you for sharing your story, things similar have happened in my life only different circumstances, really leaves us felling like sticking our head in the sand (love the picture)wishing you could crawl away or disappear in thin air. Like Michelle said we get in a hurry, rushing around to make all the preparations,its difficult to think clearly at this point.

]]> By: Kathy | Virtual Impax http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7034 Kathy | Virtual Impax Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:54:50 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7034 LOVE THIS!!! It's so nice to have you "package" this life lesson with a powerful (and painful) "been there, bought the t-shirt" story! I'm reading - I'm sympathizing and then BANG! OUCH!!! What? You mean it's not my bitchy boss/spouse/kid/in laws fault that I'm not happy? Exceptional example of blogging at its finest! LOVE THIS!!! It’s so nice to have you “package” this life lesson with a powerful (and painful) “been there, bought the t-shirt” story!

I’m reading – I’m sympathizing and then BANG! OUCH!!! What? You mean it’s not my bitchy boss/spouse/kid/in laws fault that I’m not happy?

Exceptional example of blogging at its finest!

]]> By: Michelle | When I Grow Up http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7030 Michelle | When I Grow Up Tue, 17 Mar 2009 18:55:58 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7030 It's tough when you're under pressure to keep your head clear and allow yourself time to stop & think - time to figure out the problem, come to a solution, & execute it. When you're rushing/freaking/impressing things can get hairy! I hope you took away, Jonathan, the positive reaction you had to having the CD go awry during class. What great improv skills! What a positive way to deal with a negative situation! If that's what you can walk away from the situation with - the pat on the back that you handled it well within the moment - then it's not a lose/lose situation here. BTW, I think if anyone says they haven't done this, they're a big fat liar. Hope you kept the receipt for your new equipment! It’s tough when you’re under pressure to keep your head clear and allow yourself time to stop & think – time to figure out the problem, come to a solution, & execute it. When you’re rushing/freaking/impressing things can get hairy! I hope you took away, Jonathan, the positive reaction you had to having the CD go awry during class. What great improv skills! What a positive way to deal with a negative situation! If that’s what you can walk away from the situation with – the pat on the back that you handled it well within the moment – then it’s not a lose/lose situation here.

BTW, I think if anyone says they haven’t done this, they’re a big fat liar.

Hope you kept the receipt for your new equipment!

]]> By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7027 Karl Staib - Work Happy Now Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:40:43 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7027 I've been there so many times. When I was in the horrible moment I would freeze. The thing is every time I looked back on it I found something funny and interesting about the incident. Late last year I was in a meeting giving a presentation and I lost my train of thought. I froze for a loooooong second. I felt the my face flush then I made a choice to just role with it. I acknowledged my brain freeze made a joke about drinking too much slushie and kept going. The crowd laughed, I laughed and it helped me deliver a solid presentation. I’ve been there so many times. When I was in the horrible moment I would freeze. The thing is every time I looked back on it I found something funny and interesting about the incident.

Late last year I was in a meeting giving a presentation and I lost my train of thought. I froze for a loooooong second. I felt the my face flush then I made a choice to just role with it. I acknowledged my brain freeze made a joke about drinking too much slushie and kept going. The crowd laughed, I laughed and it helped me deliver a solid presentation.

]]> By: Bo http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7026 Bo Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:34:56 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7026 Hmmm...two things come to mind. It's so much easier to look for a cause, (fault, excuse, scapegoat, whatever) outside ourselves. The world around us promises quick fixes to make us richier, taller, thinner, cooler...even more spiritual(!) as long as we are willing to pay for those fixes. It's structured around the fun, pleasure and instant gratification of outer transformations. Alas, new and improved parts and attachments break down or wear out and inevitably, we have to get newer and more improved replacements. I agree, Jonathan - real change can happen only within ourselves. Yet "change" may not necessarily be so literal. In order to do "the work needed to deal with what really needs fixing" we can perhaps just take an honest look at ourselves and learn to embrace what we see first. You gotta know what you want to change before you change it, no? It's damn hard, really knowing one's self, facing what we don't want to even acknowledge. Heck, I don't know if I can fully get there in my life time! But constantly, diligently, truthfully looking at ourselves seems to be the change we need (well, at least to me). Hmmm…two things come to mind.

It’s so much easier to look for a cause, (fault, excuse, scapegoat, whatever) outside ourselves. The world around us promises quick fixes to make us richier, taller, thinner, cooler…even more spiritual(!) as long as we are willing to pay for those fixes. It’s structured around the fun, pleasure and instant gratification of outer transformations. Alas, new and improved parts and attachments break down or wear out and inevitably, we have to get newer and more improved replacements. I agree, Jonathan – real change can happen only within ourselves.

Yet “change” may not necessarily be so literal. In order to do “the work needed to deal with what really needs fixing” we can perhaps just take an honest look at ourselves and learn to embrace what we see first. You gotta know what you want to change before you change it, no? It’s damn hard, really knowing one’s self, facing what we don’t want to even acknowledge. Heck, I don’t know if I can fully get there in my life time! But constantly, diligently, truthfully looking at ourselves seems to be the change we need (well, at least to me).

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/the-problem-is-you/#comment-7025 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:21:10 +0000 http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=1240#comment-7025 When the pressure is on our reasoning can be somewhat hindered. I can't help but think that your deductive process would have started with the CD if circumstances were a little more relaxed. Stress can really tweak the way we respond. Still, your point is well made and appreciated. When the pressure is on our reasoning can be somewhat hindered. I can’t help but think that your deductive process would have started with the CD if circumstances were a little more relaxed. Stress can really tweak the way we respond. Still, your point is well made and appreciated.

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