You mentioned masterminding. If people aren’t familiar, Napolean Hill may have been the first to discuss the concept in his book “Think and Grow Rich”.

Here’s something I learned from my husband: I used the phrase, “One does what one can,” then threw up my hands in a gesture that said something like “That’s all you can do,” or maybe a gesture of giving up or helplessness.

He said he had heard it differently. “One does what one can and buys the rest at the store.”

Oh, yes. So much can be bought (hiring help) or borrowed (mentors, friends, advisors. It changed my life.

So now, I’m more and more doing what I can and asking for help with the things I can’t do or that are not a good use of my time.

Thanks!

In business, we need to know where are strengths are and where are weaknesses are. It is vital to find people to help fill in the gaps of your weaknesses.

I also find that I learn a lot from others through what they have written or said in speeches. I have several people around the world who I consider a mentor in one area of life or another. Many of these people I have not even met, and those I have met often do not know that I consider them my mentor.

My trouble is identifying what my needs are and what kind of people I need to accomplish a goal. For example, implementing a new business idea in an area that I have a good idea but not the knowledge. Still trying to figure out how to move efficiently there.

Thanks for the good insights and ponderables!

Seems like so many of us have developed a tendency to want to go it alone. Partly out of fear of being rejected if we ask others and partly out of a sense of pride.

A few people asked how you can ask others for help without getting snubbed of shot down. That question, alone, is very telling about the way you value yourself or your quest in relation to others.

One big piece of advice here is to stop role playing the entire conversation in your head and actually HAVE the conversation in real life. You don’t know how it will unfold until you ask. But, all too often, we spin it into a rejection scenario in our heads, effectively stopping us from actually going out and asking.

Most people really DO like to help others, I know I do, even if I am busy. So, when someone comes to me to help out on a project, answer a question or offer guidance, provided I have the time and it’s an area of interest to me, I’ll often join in the conversation.

So, come from a place of passion, develop your ideas and your questions as fully as possible…then get out of the convo in your head and into the convo in REAL life. Ask! It’s the only way to get a real not hypothetical answer.