Comments on: 7 Ways To Lose An Argument Before It’s Started http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/ Entrepreneurship, marketing, personal devlelopment Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:35:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Allan http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6117 Allan Mon, 17 Nov 2008 07:07:37 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6117 I sometimes lack the discipline for this, but I usually don't try to win arguments. I usually just try to illustrate our differences and make them clear. Distinction is more important than agreement. I sometimes lack the discipline for this, but I usually don’t try to win arguments. I usually just try to illustrate our differences and make them clear. Distinction is more important than agreement.

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]]> By: Sophmom http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6074 Sophmom Fri, 14 Nov 2008 15:50:12 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6074 All very sage advice. I would add that it's important to know the difference between winning and getting what you want. I think it's important to focus on achieving a specific goal and that, generally speaking, in human interaction, when one person wins, both people lose. It's certainly true in close, personal interaction. All very sage advice. I would add that it’s important to know the difference between winning and getting what you want. I think it’s important to focus on achieving a specific goal and that, generally speaking, in human interaction, when one person wins, both people lose. It’s certainly true in close, personal interaction.

]]> By: Linda Armbaender http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6072 Linda Armbaender Fri, 14 Nov 2008 08:53:41 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6072 Fantastic List. I really enjoyed reading your post. Things are more often easier written than done in real life, that's maybe a fact. But with your great list arguments could be easier done, and I think it's a really good help. Thanks for your perspective how to act in an argument. Fantastic List.

I really enjoyed reading your post. Things are more often easier written than done in real life, that’s maybe a fact. But with your great list arguments could be easier done, and I think it’s a really good help.

Thanks for your perspective how to act in an argument.

]]> By: Cathy @ RiseSmart http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6068 Cathy @ RiseSmart Thu, 13 Nov 2008 23:09:12 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6068 Really like your point #4. I think above all else, people are more likely to listen and be receptive to your point of view if you first establish your credibility and likeability. Really like your point #4. I think above all else, people are more likely to listen and be receptive to your point of view if you first establish your credibility and likeability.

]]> By: Maya http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6064 Maya Thu, 13 Nov 2008 07:04:47 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6064 All useful tactics that you have suggested Johnathan, but these are mine: - Use some emotional intelligence: Establish that it is okay to disagree. (Starting with this always leads to the best result - not always the intended result, mind you :)) And Listen, really listen. Try to come up with the best solution and if I have the better idea then the best solution should mean my idea wins :) -Tell my story: This is a winner. If I tell my story, I get the person's attention. A strong compelling story if better than the best facts or comparisons :) All useful tactics that you have suggested Johnathan, but these are mine:

- Use some emotional intelligence: Establish that it is okay to disagree. (Starting with this always leads to the best result – not always the intended result, mind you :) ) And Listen, really listen. Try to come up with the best solution and if I have the better idea then the best solution should mean my idea wins :)

-Tell my story: This is a winner. If I tell my story, I get the person’s attention. A strong compelling story if better than the best facts or comparisons :)

]]> By: Guy Harris http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6052 Guy Harris Wed, 12 Nov 2008 15:12:38 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6052 Great list. Great post. I saw this post referenced by Victoria Pynchon at Settle It Now. Then I sent a tweet with a link to her post. I liked the content so much I went back for a second look and realized that you were the original source. Don't know how I missed it, but I did. Thanks for this perspective. I really like what I've been able to read in your blog so far. Fantastic content. Great list. Great post.

I saw this post referenced by Victoria Pynchon at Settle It Now. Then I sent a tweet with a link to her post. I liked the content so much I went back for a second look and realized that you were the original source. Don’t know how I missed it, but I did.

Thanks for this perspective. I really like what I’ve been able to read in your blog so far. Fantastic content.

]]> By: Khalid Saleh http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/7-ways-to-lose-an-argument-before-its-started/#comment-6048 Khalid Saleh Wed, 12 Nov 2008 08:27:13 +0000 http://jonathanfields.com/blog/?p=854#comment-6048 Nice list Jonathan. It might explain why I always lose arguments with my wife ;) I think trying to understand the perspective of the other person and where they are coming from will definitely either help you win an argument or find a mistake in your own thinking. Nice list Jonathan. It might explain why I always lose arguments with my wife ;)

I think trying to understand the perspective of the other person and where they are coming from will definitely either help you win an argument or find a mistake in your own thinking.

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